Date Night | Bringing It Back.


Confession: I love date nights. Except with the move and our busy schedules Ryan and I were spending more Friday nights at Costco than connecting over a nice meal. We would rationalize that it made sense to run errands without the children and counted it as a date. The problem? It never felt like a real date. Buying groceries and running to Target for odds and ends isn't the most romantic thing to do. Sure, we were together. But our conversation always hovered around the kids, the house and meal planning. We weren't having fun or connecting like we should have been.

In an effort to bring back those feelings of anticipation we had while were were courting and going on dates, we came up with a couple of rules.

One. We would alternate weeks planning the date, keeping the details a secret.
Two. No running errands.

I was in charge of planning our date last week and I really wanted to do something out of the box. Ryan played a lot of baseball growing up so a trip to the batting cages sounded like fun plus, I knew he would love it. After a simple meal, I drove my cute date to the batting cages where we laughed and had a lovely evening together. Ryan's in charge of our plans tonight and I have to say, I'm giddy with excitement. There's something about knowing he's putting thought into our evening that brings those old familiar butterflies.

I plan on sharing some of our excursions here every so often but I'm dying to know, what have been some of your favorite date nights?

25 comments:

  1. We recently went out dancing at a Mardi Gras party - we hadn't been dancing since we had kids! Tonight, the in-laws are babysitting and we're going to see the Hunger Games, but as a historic theater. Excited!

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  2. You guys went on a date to the batting cages?? Coolest couple ever!

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  3. Danyelle,
    I'm loving your hair longer! So pretty.

    We find ourselves counting errands right now as date nights too since getting our two foster babies. But tonight we actually have a date night planned. My cousin is coming over to watch all the kids! Sushi is one of our all-time favorites because it was one of our first dates!!

    We have often talked about taking turns each month planning a fun date night. Thanks for reminding me to make it important. How quickly we forget sometimes.

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  4. I love the idea of alternating the planning of your dates and just may have to adopt that policy as our own. The weather is finally warming up here in RI so it's the perfect time to make the most of our weekends!

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  5. This is a great date night! We also have trouble actually getting on a date night in the first place and then deciding what to do. We have a local wine bar that we LOVE and we've also done things like go to the park or (for my birthday) we went to a burlesque show in Seattle. :)

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  6. Our dates always involve dinner, but I love the idea of just doing an activity as the main thing.

    My favorite dates are the super simple ones - out for italian ice and a walk along the river.

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  7. We've gone out on a date night twice in 11 years. Both times were dreadful, horrible, and so far in the opposite direction of fun that they nearly ended in divorce--probably would have if either of us believed divorce solved anything. We do much better just sitting on the porch with a coffee or a glass of wine.

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  8. Such a good idea! We always go on dates to the hardware store. Waa-waa-waaaaaaa. Super lame. We'll have to start following your lead.

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  10. So fun! I miss date nights. :)

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  11. We recently moved to a new town far away from family. No sitters, yet. I'm hopeful we will find someone soon. I like this idea. Will keep it in mind!

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  12. I love it! I'm not sure we could have a surprise type date night every Friday, but I want to make it happen at least once a month. Hope your date is fun tonight!

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  13. when money is tight, our favorite is sharing a dessert at barnes and noble and pouring over magazines and sharing the things we like the best in them. i get to hear about things he likes, he gets to hear about things i like.
    when it's winter, we ski. :)
    when it's summer, we go rock climbing and hiking and shooting together.
    i love your idea of it being secret. that is awesome.

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  14. $5 laser tag all to ourselves. Don't think I've laughed that hard on a date.. Funnest . date . ever!!

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  15. Cool idea! My husband had been in the Coast Guard and hadn't shot a firearm in years. He had mentioned that in passing so I surprised him with a trip to the shooting range. It was an experience out of my comfort zone but that made it a nice bonding experience for us both.

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  16. Love the batting cage idea! Before kids two of our favorite non-meal centered dates were playing mini golf, or hiking a new trail.

    We have two little guys and both sets of grandparents are. Lose so we're hoping to bring date night back soon. We have had a few date days when we both played hooky from work, and went to brunch then a matinee instead :)

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  17. I LOVE the idea of taking turns making the plans and keeping it a surprise! We are definitely going to borrow that idea!

    Yesterday we did something fun--I got a sitter in the afternoon and met my husband for lunch. Our darling downtown was bustling, it was gorgeous and warm, and we dined outside. It was so fun to mix it up and have an afternoon date!

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  18. Great ideas!

    I usually plan our dates, because I am the "planner". I also plan many of them around great deals I find on Groupon. We have attended baseball games, the opera, even some fancy dinners with good deals. We also have our fav restaurants to go to. We tend to venture there often, but since I am moving around the US and he is stationary in the Windy City, it makes date night wherever I am living more exciting. We get to explore new places together!

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  19. So fun! We went midnight bowling AFTER a movie once when mom was in town & paying a sitter wasn't on the mind. Felt so young & old at the same time :) I like your idea to alternate planning.

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  20. that is really cool! wish i could do that too!

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  21. So love it . You have a happy life ! So envy ....Best wishes !

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  22. what a cute date!! love the surprise idea. our favorite dates have been the random ones too...dinner and bowling, mini golf, shooting range.

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  23. Love the idea of having the date night rules. Very cool! One of our favorite dates is taking a loaf of bread down to feed the birds in Columbia Park in the summer. Easy and no planning needed!

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  24. Love date night-
    My daughter started a link up party on her blog for people to share their date night ideas- http://shannonbrown.typepad.com/life_in_general/2012/05/lets-go-on-a-date-may-link-up.html
    She is the one that started 12 months of dates basket.
    Thanks for sharing

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