I have been asked over and over and over how I do the things I do. "How do you find the time?" "How do you keep up on it all?" I have even had a few people make innuendos about how surely something must be amiss. I MUST be ignoring something important so that I can do the things I want to do. There is no magic formula, and believe me I AM NO SUPER MOM. There are days when the laundry goes unfolded. I get rings around my toilets. The carpet is screaming for a good vacuum as I type this. Whenever I am asked questions of this nature I usually say, "People make the time to do the things they want to do." And I truly believe that. If someone likes reading, they make time for it. I love to create and nest and browse through magazines looking at pretty things, so I make the time for it. These activities fill me up. In doing them, I am being true to myself and my interests. Not neglecting my family. There is a balance that we must all find and like everyone else, I admit, I struggle with the balance. When I devote everything I have to my family, I day dream about the projects I want to work on. When I'm working on a project, I feel guilty about the things I could be doing for my family. Please tell me we all feel this way.
After much thought on the subject, I have decided the answer I am going to start giving people when faced with these questions is "I am not a super mom, but I have a super husband." Because that is really how I am able to do the things I do. I have a husband that jumps up after he's finished with dinner and starts on the dishes. I never have to ask. I have a husband who likes things clean as much as I do. I have a husband who rotates the laundry while I read bed time stories. He delights in service. Especially service to his family. In our family we heed the counsel from our church leaders who said "By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners." We are equal partners.
In the Ensign that arrived in my mailbox yesterday President Eyring talks about "being one." He said, "And at that creation of man and woman, unity for them in marriage was not given as hope; it was a command! Our Heavenly Father wants our hearts to be knit together. That union in love is not simply an ideal. It is a necessity." My dear husband and I understand and hold strong to this counsel. We support one another in our interests, and we are one in purpose and desire for our family.